The Invisible List
Notes and free tools about the mental load: the noticing, planning and checking that keeps a house, and often an office, running, and that mostly goes unseen. Written for women who already carry a full job and most of the thinking at home.
Each page takes one question women actually ask and works through it properly, with a tool you can use on the spot. Your answers stay in your own browser.
How to explain the mental load to your husband
Break one ordinary job into the four stages of thinking behind it, mark who does each, and print a one-page note to talk through.
Break one ordinary job into the four stages of thinking behind it, mark who does each, and print a one-page note to talk through.
Mental load at work
Tally the note-taking, card-organising and quick-favour hours in your week, and plan which to keep, rotate or hand back.
Tally the note-taking, card-organising and quick-favour hours in your week, and plan which to keep, rotate or hand back.
More free tools on our main site
The Invisible List is a small companion to Chapter Her Clarity, which has more tools on the same subject:
- Mental Load Inventory: every invisible household job and who holds it.
- Household Workload Balance Calculator: the same jobs in hours.
- Hand-off planner: write down a job step by step before you pass it over.
- Weekly logistics meeting planner: a short weekly check-in so the planning isn't all in one head.